When parents and teachers have
concerns with respect to the progress, or lack of it, that the
children are making in a particular class, a telephone conference is
sometimes warranted. Below is a list of some guidelines which can
make these phone calls productive for parents.
- Remember that you are dealing
with another human being. Treat the person on the other side of
the conversation with the dignity and respect you want for
yourself. Threatening attitudes set a negative tone for the
conference and take the emphasis away from the issue - how best to
cooperatively help the child.
- Remember that when a child comes
home with an account of what has happened, this is the child's
perception - and is not always the full story. It is always best
to discuss the issue rather than the fact that your child is being
The wrong way: "Susie tells me
that you don't like her and you always pick on her."
The better way: "Susie came home
feeling rather upset. Do you feel that there is a problem? If so,
what can we do about it?"
- Keep in mind that parents,
children and teachers must form a partnership. A well-running
partnership will prove to be the optimum way to help the children
succeed. If we always keep this thought uppermost in our minds,
if we stick to issues rather than personalities, if we avoid
threats and intimidations, the children will reap the
When a parent-teacher phone call
becomes a confrontation, there are no winners. There is however, one
big loser - the child.
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