There is an insatiable demand in upper middleclass school districts like mine for extra help, remedial or tutoring or whatever term we use to demand that something be done to assuage our adult anxiety that our children may not know all that they need to gain acceptance to Harvard and earn six figure incomes. That demand while it always existed to some degree has spun out of control in response to the advent of the Common Core State Standards and the tests aligned to them.
Little kids who are being asked to do intellectual things that their brains are not yet ready to do are subjected to extra hours of school only to come home to excessive homework and sessions with private tutors. Weekends are not free from school related activities either. Even summer vacations are often spent attending “camps” that are organized around academic pursuits. Even the devil would be impressed with how little time today’s kids have for idleness.
The process of building a winning resume begins early and quickly develops into a race of each against all, more AP classes, more extra-curricular activities , more service to the community, more extra help sessions, more private tutors, more SAT and ACT prep, more grade grubbing, more cheating, less sleep, less social interaction, less relaxation, less appreciation of learning and ideas. Got to get ahead. Go to get ahead. Got to get to an elite college. Why they have to do all of this is never seriously questioned, either by students or most of their parents. They ironically don’t appear to be equipped to raise such existential questions.
I sometimes think that there never was a generation of parents less confident of the ability of their children to become competent, accomplished adults. This fear of failure drives a relentless pressure to do more, achieve more. Success is tied to just one more tutoring session, one more extra-curricular activity. No calculus? You’re a failure, and, by the way, what’s wrong with your parents for not insisting that you take it? Don’t they want you to be college and career ready?